Be gentle with yourself. It was a ‘message’ I received a few years ago during an attempted meditation that was going something like this: “Why do you always screw up your relationships? What is wrong with you? Here we go again, idiot!” You get the idea. And then something arose suddenly and completely and serenely that said, “Be gentle with yourself.” My mental battering came to an abrupt halt as I searched my mind for the origins of that thought.…
I just finished Deepak Chopra’s book, “Buddha.” Say what you will about Chopra, but the man has created quite a cottage industry for himself. His other recent book on Jesus was also quite good. These are “fictional histories” not intended to be taken literally,…
It took me a long time (we’re talking 40-plus years) to realize that an argument or fight with another is an ideal opportunity for personal growth. Yet for years I did just the opposite, pointing my finger at my partner and desperately trying to…
As the global economy melts down and stress levels rise, it’s a good time to remind oneself that only in the darkness does real human growth come. Anyone can jet ski around the Bahamas and feel good about the world, much harder to find…
Your mate cheats on you. You’ve never done anything even remotely like this. You are devastated, outraged, crushed. Over the ensuing months the many flavors of betrayal are played out. Ultimately, your relationship comes to an end and over the succeeding years you “forgive”…